Answers on Aging
In 2009, Council on Aging staff responded to nearly 50,000 inquiries for information about help for seniors. Most of those inquiries can be boiled down to one question: What help is available for seniors in our community?
In this new section of our e-newsletter, we'll share answers to common questions about aging-related issues. If you have a question, e-mail us at info@help4seniors.org or call (513) 721-1025.
 Margie Burhlage, home health nurse, COALA Caregiver Education and Support Program
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This Answers on Aging provided by Margie Burhlage, COALA Caregiver Education and Support Program
Question
How and when should you talk to an older loved-one about hanging up the car keys?
Answer
This is a touchy subject for many families -- and one that has been the subject of recent debate in the news media. Since driving represents freedom, independence and self-sufficiency, you'll want to approach the issue with sensitivity and diplomacy.
Some typical changes in older drivers include: driving slower; poor reaction time; and reluctance to drive on the freeway, at night or in bad weather. These changes may happen over time. But other signs can crop up unexpectedly, such as a pattern of close calls, violations or even a collision. These are all indications it's time to talk to parents or another older relative about driving.
Of course, the best way to determine whether an older driver is having problems is to observe certain things while riding as a passenger. Ride along during the day and at night. Does the driver seem confused or nervous at intersections? Have difficulty navigating turns? Stop for no reason? Hit the brake instead of the gas, or vice versa?
If you suspect there is a medical reason for changes in a person's driving, suggest they make an appointment with their physician or sign up for a driver safety program.
If you suspect the changes are related to normal aging, share your concerns honestly and openly. Ask if they have noticed a change in their driving abilities or if they feel uncomfortable driving. Often, older drivers have recognized the changes and adjusted their driving habits, but are reluctant to discuss them for fear they will be forced to quit driving.
If you know your older loved one will not be able to drive anymore, find out where they regularly drive, explore the alternatives, come up with a plan and present it to them when you begin the discussion. Your plan may include help from family members, friends, public transportation, senior center vans, cab service or a combination of all!
If you're meeting with strong resistance, there are some additional suggestions:
- Ask the person's doctor to write a prescription telling the person not to drive. Showing it to the person is, in some cases, sufficient deterrent.
- A family member or physician can notify the Ohio Bureau of Motor Vehicles, in writing (very specific information must be included). The state has processes to retest driving skills when that individual comes in to renew his or her license. If necessary the state can withdraw the driver's license of a person who is mentally impaired. The state is required, upon request, to tell the individual who notified the BMV.
- There are no legal actions you can take, unless you are granted legal guardianship. In that case, you have the authority to revoke driving privileges.
- You can disable a car or take the keys away. Be forewarned, though, that the older relative may call an unknowing mechanic or locksmith and quickly resolve their "car" problem. Some caregivers have told us they've taken a loved one's car away only to have them call the police and report it stolen. If a family member can't produce legal paperwork (legal guardianship) to the police, the family must return the car or face legal consequences.
Fortunately, this level of resistance is not common. But, the end of driving is a sad and difficult time for many.
Information about local transportation options and driving resources is available on our Web site.
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